"The absence of evidence, is not the evidence of absence."
Just because we have no proof, doesn't mean [it] doesn't exist.
"It's not about having what you want, its about wanting what you have."
Be thankful for the things you already possess instead of coveting what you do not.
"You don't have to want to, you just have to do it."
Realize we sometimes do things not because it's what we desire, but because its right, considerate, or unselfish.
"Those who say happiness comes with sunshine have never danced in the rain."
You can always find true happiness if you open your mind to all of the possibilities.
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From the earliest memory of me being matured, I remember taking into account the ways relationships, friendships, and families failed. Whether it was a spouse, a sibling, or a friend, if any form of relationship failed, I took in all of the elements inside of that relationship, and subconsciously studied it. After a year or so of this, I matured a little more, I did my very best to keep my mind open. Even though I never believed I had been judgmental, I made conscious efforts to not judge anyone based on their r/n/re/s/sp [race, nationality, religion, sex, or sexual preference]. I strived to be as unselfish as I could be(Reasonably, of course.. I've never let anyone knowingly take advantage of me), and strived to not limit any opportunities to any specific r/n/re/s/sp. And now currently, none of that is a conscious effort anymore, but my mere attitude.
If you knew me, I can honestly say you'd think of me as an asshole. Me and my friends constantly make fun of every kind of people, whether it be race, sex, nationality, religion, or sexual preference. Not because we think less of anyone, but because we all know that people are people. No matter who or how you are, you're a person. And we treat everyone equally. I'm a Non-Denominational Christian. I have two best friends: a homosexual, and a Christian-hating Atheist.
When you come to terms with the fact that despite where a person came from and what a person believes in, they're still a person.. Then, you find that stereotypes and extremist behaviors to be hilarious.
If you speak to me, know that no topic is an embarrassing one. No subject is off limits to discussing, and no question is too personal. I have little care what anyone knows about me, nor do I have any care for judging you or someone else based on what they're afraid to discuss.
There is one type of person I cant stand though: Those that commit acts of indecency and rebellion in order to get ATTENTION instead of because it's how they truly feel. I have a fearful amount of hate reserved for people like that.
This open-mindedness doesn't only involve people, it involves situations. When you open your mind and analyze a situation for all possible outcomes, it's so much easier to weed through them, grab hold of, and prepare for the most likely outcomes. Hoping for the best, but preparing for the worst. Some might see this as being pessimistic, but the true pessimistic can't find hope, can only prepare for the worst. And when less-than-worst happens, they prepare for the next worst. Instead, when you hope for the best, then you may relax when less-than worst happens until a new event arises and you have to prepare over again. And when the one event comes that you truly are powerless to prevent or even sway a different outcome, then you have to stop worrying and relax. If there is nothing you can do about a situation, your best move is to relax, not stress yourself, and do your best to make positive of the outcome. There is no use in hurting yourself over something you truly cant change.
If you can do these things, then you'll have so much more time to think and worry about the things that really matter. Whether that be school, your family, a loved one, or whatever. You wont have those other silly, but common things to distract you.